Figuring It Out As You Go
Making decisions is hard. In fact, decisions suck when you’re as indecisive as I am. For me, even a restaurant menu can be overwhelming with too many options. But not all decisions are as simple as deciding what to eat or what to wear, especially for a young adult, facing all of the major decisions that life has to offer: Where will you go to college? What will you study in college? And what the HECK are you going to do after college?
Ruminating on these choices can bring about so much unnecessary stress and feelings of being overwhelmed, but it doesn’t have to be like that! Since having to make all of those life choices myself, I’ve realized three major things when it comes to decisions:
It’s okay to have no clue what you’re going to do.
You don’t have to have it all figured out yet. You have TIME, girl! It’s okay to spend a few years getting yourself together. You are a work in progress and you have so many wonderful years ahead of you, so you can take your time to figure it all out as you go. Life has its own funny way of messing up your plans anyway! Focus on what’s happening right now, and how you’re going to spend this moment or day – you’ll be a lot more effective with your plans that way. Enjoy the present, and don’t let big decisions in the future weigh you down.
It’s okay to change your mind.
You can change ANYTHING by changing your mind! You don’t have to be stuck with any of your decisions, ever. Usually, when you change your mind, it’s because you’ve found that something is no longer working for you. So, changing your mind is a good thing because it’s a sign of growth!
It’s okay to walk away.
It’s so empowering to say, “this isn’t serving me” and leave whatever it is behind. Release yourself from whatever does not help you or make you feel good. You are not a “quitter” for having the strength to move past something or someone that is no longer doing you any good. This stops you from wasting your own time. Your time is precious and you should never torture yourself with something that doesn’t make you a better you. This can mean moving on from relationships or friendships that are toxic, or quitting a job that’s draining you of your passion. Walking away is hard, but once you’ve metaphorically “ripped the band-aid off,” you’ll feel so much better.